From the time we are old enough to walk and talk people in our lives are always asking us, what we want to be when we grow up. The world is full of 5 year olds who want to be a Doctor, Princess, Movie Star, Mom, Dad, husband, or wife. The list goes on for […]
When the term codependency first came into use in the early 1980’s it was used to describe a person who was drawn to relationships with individuals who were chemically dependent, be it drugs or alcohol. In order to be diagnosed as codependent, S. Wegscheider-Cruise found that a person must meet three specific criteria. These included […]
December! Winter weather is here, falling snow, decorated trees and carols filling the air. I grew up in a time when I couldn’t wait to make a snow man in the front yard before coming inside to enjoy a cup of hot cocoa while we watched Frosty on prime time TV. It was a care […]
The closer we get to the holidays the more I think about how we look forward to spending time with our friends and family. Christmas lights on the tree, festive decorations, and joyful music in every home. The truth is this cookie cutter Christmas isn’t the norm for many families. Children of co-dependent parents suffer […]
When we are first born, we come into this world helpless, needy, and unsure of the world around us. Our parents are there to care for us, making sure that all of our basic needs are met. In a perfect world. Yes, in a perfect world, Mom is there to hold us close and feed […]
If you were to ask a codependent how they got where they are, they probably couldn’t tell you. Sure, you can look at their past and see a cause and effect relationship between their childhood rearing and where they are today. It is very uncommon for a codependent personality to become aware of their disorder […]
You is kind. You is smart. You is important. If you’ve ever seen the movie “The Help” you are familiar with the words of Aibileene Clark. “You is kind, You is smart, You is important.” spoken to the young Mae Wobley. I’ve often wondered if we all had an Aibileene in our life would co-dependency […]
One of the most common manners in which couples and family members find themselves in a co-dependent relationship occurs when one family member or partner is called upon to care for another. This can be caused by an addiction, physical illness, or mental disease and disability. How do you manage to be the selfless caregiver […]
When you become a parent you commit your life to the care and upbringing of your child. Making sure that you do everything possible to ensure that they grow up to be happy healthy adults, protecting them from what may harm them, and teaching them what it means to be a good member of society. […]
I’m often asked if only women are the enabling partner in a co-dependent relationship, or if men can be in this position as well. It’s unfortunate that society most frequently thinks that only men can be abusive, addictive people – this we all know is far from the truth. We hear more about abusive men […]
Marriage is a relationship between two people who love each other, who care for each other, and who have made the commitment to be with each other threw everything no matter how good or bad it may be. How do you manage to maintain a healthy supportive relationship with your spouse through thick and thin […]
Let’s face it; you’d have to be living under a rock to avoid hearing about the soon to be released motion picture based on the book, “50 Shades of Grey”. In a nut shell this book was written several years ago and took off like wild fire, it tells the story of a young impressionable […]
